You suspect a guy is pretending to be straight in a relationship with you, but you’re not sure or you’re afraid to ask him outright. There are several reasons why a gay individual might choose to pretend to be straight. Let’s understand some reasons why so that you can spot the signals that he may actually be gay.
He Wants Biological Children
A gay man may entertain a relationship with a woman in order to have her carry his biological children. There are many men that have left heterosexual relationships after finally admitting to themselves and their partners that they were in fact homosexual.
It’s not uncommon for a gay man to start a family with a woman because that is what he truly wanted until he can no longer suppress his true sexual desires. This leaves women blindsided. Be alert before starting a family with someone who is just using you for your womb.
It Makes His Life Easier
Somewhere in his life, he made an assessment that his life would just be easier if he simply pretended to be straight. He learned tricks along the way that help him conceal his true self, but over time this is very damaging to a person’s self worth and psyche.
He may have thought it would be easy to play straight but as he ages, he’s going to grow to resent you and himself. No, it’s better to get to the bottom of it with these 10 signs a guy is pretending to be straight.
1. Overcompensation in Masculine Behaviors
Is he always talking about what “real men” do? This could be a red flag if you already have suspicions that he’s not being genuine about his sexuality.
Exaggerated displays of traditional masculine traits, like excessive interest in sports, cars, or other stereotypically “masculine” activities could be a sign if he goes out of his way to display his masculinity in front of you.
2. Avoidance of LGBTQ+ Topics
Be mindful of his avoidance of sensitive topics or discussions about a celebrity’s coming out. If he appears uncomfortable talking about sexual orientation, he could be hiding something from himself and you.
A reluctance to engage in discussions or show interest in LGBTQ+ topics, even when they come up in conversation could be another sign that he’s pretending to be straight.
3. Inconsistent Details About Past Relationships
It’s possible that he was in homosexual relationships prior to seeing you, and you are just asking too many questions about his past. This will lead to a myriad of lies that he will not be able to keep up with.
Inevitably you will catch him in one of his lies. Providing vague or inconsistent details about past or current relationships, could be his way to avoid revealing the true nature of his past.
4. He’s Too Concerned With Feminine Things
Before Bruce Jenner became Katlyn, his then wife Kris and other family members admitted to catching Bruce wearing makeup and a dress.
Your man may be too concerned with how you walk, dress, your makeup or your hairstyle.
This behavior can also come off as hating or jealousy of your femininity.
5. Defensiveness About Personal Life
We touched on this earlier, but does your guy become angry or even defensive when asked about his personal life?
Ask him about specific sexual experiences and watch his reaction. His behavior could be a sign he is pretending to be straight.
6. Expressions of Homophobia
This next behavior is unacceptable so if your boyfriend or husband is expressing homophobic language or has strong negative opinions about LGBTQ+ individuals, it is a red flag regardless of his sexual preference.
Do you suspect that he’s using this behavior to deflect suspicion or fit in with societal expectations?
Trust your feminine intuition and know the signs a guy is pretending to be straight.
7. Quick to Deny Speculations
Yes, we quote Shakespeare here at Lyric’s Spot!
The saying implies that when someone protests too much to an accusation or question, the assumption is usually that it is a phony reaction.
A strong and immediate denial of any suggestions or speculations about being gay, even if they are presented in a non-confrontational manner could be a red flag.
8. Excessive Dating or Flirting with the Same Sex
Giving another woman too much attention is a dealbreaker in many relationships, but is your guy doting on the same sex?
If he just can’t help himself and you’re left wondering if you can believe your own eyes, it ‘s probably time to move on.
Engaging in excessive compliments or flirting with the same sex should not be taken lightly in your relationship. This guy is pretending to be straight.
9. Unwillingness to Attend LGBTQ+ Events
Refusing invitations to LGBTQ+ events or avoiding any association with the LGBTQ+ community to prevent suspicions about their own identity, can be considered when wondering if he’s gay.
10. Online Behavior
Check his socials. Does he follow mostly men? If you have access to his YouTube channel, you can browse his subscriptions and watch history.
It’s crucial to remember that these signs a guy is pretending to be straight are not foolproof indicators, and making assumptions about someone’s sexuality can be harmful.
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