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Let’s cut right to the chase, you’ve been dating each other for a while. There’s a high level of intimacy in your relationship, but someone is dragging their feet. In a nutshell, they are wasting precious time. If you’re wanting to get your gal to the next level or if you want to take your relationship to the next level with a guy, here’s what you need to know to get to the alter or bust!
Put Your Time In
In a healthy relationship, most people know within 12 months if their partner is marriage material or not. This may not seem like a lot of time, but it s puts things into perspective when thinking about how much time you’ve already put in. If you’ve been dating for 5 years and have 2 kids, it’s safe to say he’s not planning to wife you anytime soon.
Under normal circumstances you should start discussing the future if 2 years have passed without a discussion IF that’s what you want. You’re reading this because you want to get your relationship to the next level so hear me out. Depending on your age and your level in life, you may need to speak up and make your desires known before you wind up in relationship limbo.
Your Partner Feels They Can’t Live Without You
Determine what taking your relationship to the next level means for you and visualize what that looks like. Think about areas in your partner’s life where you can bring them peace, guide them, or lighten their burden in some way. Once you’ve been able to become a larger part of their lives, they may find the thought of living without you is too much to bear.
Many happily married couples, and some not so happily married, confess that the reason for getting married was because they couldn’t see their lives without their partner in it.
Speak Now Or Forever Hold Your Peace
This is your life we’re talking about here, and you’re too amazing to be kept on a back burner while they secretly keep an eye out for a better prospect. Bring up the idea of marriage and really listen to what their feelings are toward marriage and you.
Pay close attention to their body language. Remember if they’ve known you for the past 2 years and think you mad for bringing up marriage, you have to be honest with yourself and make a the hard decision. They probably won’t change as time goes on.
Rip The Band-Aid OFF!
Listen beautiful or handsome, if they’ve got cold feet…you might need to think about pulling away. Let them know that you’re going to begin seeing other people and do just that. Don’t bluff! You don’t need their permission, you don’t need their consent.
Just put them on notice or not, depending on the level of respect you now have for them, and get to work. After all, you’re not married or even engaged. This makes you SINGLE.
What Can You DO?
The only person you can control is yourself. Decide what you want and go for it! Only you know when it’s time to cut the cord or if you should hang out a while longer. Be brutally honest with yourself about whether or not you actually want to get to the next level with this person.
Pros vs Cons
Make an honest list of pros and cons. List everything they’ve ever done that was kind of foul that you brushed off or overlooked because you’re in love. List things that they did that made you feel not so good because those could be red flags.
Your list of pros should be ways that this person has actually improved your life long term. Think about how they’ve contributed to your peace. How have they helped you grow as a person? Are they growing as a person or are you leveling up without them?
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