Ah yes, he keeps talking about his finances and you’re wondering why. Here is a short list of possibilities. Guys are not that complicated, so when a man tells you about his finances, there’s really only a few things it could mean.
He Wants To Impress You
It may seem like he’s just sparking small talk, but beware when a man tells you about his finances on a date. He could be fishing for compliments and just trying to impress you without much to back it up.
If you find his finances impressive, then it’s ok to let him know so that he feels you are engaged on the date. You can smile, nod, and let him know how great he’s done for himself to stroke his ego.
He Wants You To Feel Sorry For Him
Watch out because he could be trying to get empathy for having low income and being generally poor. Don’t fall into this dusty rat trap! If he cannot afford to take you on a date, then he should not be there with you.
It’s especially important to watch out for him discussing his poor finances as you gaze at the menu. What he’s saying in so many words is, ‘don’t go crazy by ordering the wagyu‘.
When a man tells you about his finances and they are bad, just try to change the subject to something more up lifting.
He Wants To Lower Your Expectations
When a man tells you about his finances and he’s not doing well he’s definitely trying to lower you’re expectations of what he can provide. For example, if you know that he’s just scraping by he’s hoping that you will understand why you only have 1 date per month.
He could also be trying to mitigate your expectations for presents and gifts. Ladies, you won’t get all bills payed out of this guy! Move on.
He Wants To Feel Powerful
A guy that tells you about his great finances is going to pay the bill before you even come out of the restroom to fix your lipstick. Usually this type of man is a great tipper because he wants to feel powerful.
A gentlemen that talks about how much money he has wants you to know that he’s able to take care of things and you! He’s generally going to be a good provider and his next question might be about how he can help you in your life.
He Wants A Sugar Baby
Looking for all bills paid, expensive gifts, and weekend trips? Jackpot! If he’s telling you how much his business is grossing then he could be looking for a sugar baby and he’s got his sights set on you! Watch for these signs that your sugar daddy loves you!
Never Date A Poverty Minded Person
Hopefully you understand that it is always very telling when a man talks about his finances in front of you or tells you about his finances on a date. Sometimes it can be a red flag depending on what you’re looking for. If you’re not interested, don’t feed into his ramblings. Also, remember that being financially secure yourself doesn’t mean dating someone who is financially unstable is a good idea.
When you are seeing someone that cannot keep up with you financially, it will undoubtedly cause many problems in the relationship including jealousy and the need to somehow control the spending of YOUR OWN money. Yes, it is a common occurrence.
When a man is not on your level financially, he will inevitably become insecure and feel threatened by you. Although he may have thought he was secure enough to “handle it”, he may not realize just how it would affect his self esteem.
You may even find yourself downplaying your expensive taste to appease him. That will get old fast!
Vacations and trips will be a struggle for him and you will wonder why he never wants to go anywhere or do anything. Well, it will be because he can’t afford it, but you can.
Offering to pay for them is asking for trouble. Never forget that many women have been murdered by a dusty that was jealous of her. I still grieve for my friend who did not know her worth and a dusty brutally took her life.
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