If you’ve ever dealt with a Narcissist of any kind, you know they can do some pretty weird things. These strange behaviors don’t stop at the bedroom. Narcissistic personality disorder can rear its ugly head during intimacy. Here are 5 weird things narcissists do sexually in a relationship.
1. Narcs Humiliate You In Bed
When having sex with a narcissist, the narcissists may use demeaning sex acts or comments to erode their partner’s self-esteem in bed and out. It can also be interpreted as dirty talk, but often goes far beyond, “you’ve been a naughty boy or girl.”
A narcissist may spit, inflict pain, enjoy giving golden showers, or even bondage to exert their dominance over you. It’s one of the main weird things narcissists do sexually that can seem thrilling at first but often goes too far.
The narcissist’s need to push you further and further down their sexual fantasy rabbit hole will become a burden and make you feel humiliated in the future.
2. Narcissists Perform Acts of Dominance Sexually
A sinister aspect of narcissistic sexual behavior often manifests in the embrace of sadistic or masochistic tendencies. Within this realm, lies a dark pleasure in inflicting pain upon a partner, or a twisted satisfaction derived from the torment inflicted upon themselves.
The allure for narcissists towards such sexual activities lies in the perverse gratification derived from asserting dominance and fulfilling their fantasies of absolute control over their sexual partners partners. It also is an indicator of their lack of empathy.
A Narcissistic lover may want to exhibit their sexual prowess in a grand way. This could mean public displays of affection or public sex in the form of orgies.
Some folks might just have a flair for the dramatic, enjoying the audience’s applause or the thrill of turning public spaces into their own personal stage – and no, it doesn’t automatically make them card-carrying members of the narcissist club. Remember, there’s a fine line between spicing things up and being fulfilled emotionally by exhibitionism.
4. Narcissist Withholds Sex
Your Narcissist LOVES punishments don’t they? You have been punished for everything from wanting to talk about your feelings to holding them accountable for their bad behavior. There is always something the narcissist chooses to punish you for and withholding affection is a great punishment for them to inflict upon you.
Withholding could last a month, two months, or even 3 months! Some spouses have reported not being intimate an entire year due to accountability confrontations.
Remember, withholding sex from your spouse is a form of emotional abuse and grounds for divorce in most states.
People with NPD thrive on the attention you give them when your punishment is served. The more you ask them why, the more they will continue the punishment. They thrive on the drama, so go grey rock!
5. Narcissists Seek Validation At The End
“Was it good for you,” is something a Narc might say in bed. They want to know how good they were in bed and all the best parts in a play by play of sorts. This can be quite annoying when they need their sexual report and ego stroked. Approval seeking questions like, Did you cum or why didn’t you cum, are typical of a narcissist.
How you choose to respond is up to you, but rest assured you will have your Narcissistic lover seeking approval soon after intimacy is complete.
6. Narcissists Say, “Thank You”
This is no doubt one of the strangest things a narcissist can do after a sexual act. The behavior stems directly from their desire to receive and not give genuine love. When the narcissist thanks you for a sexual act or intimacy, it gives them the feeling that they have been served or serviced.
When their needs have been met and they are satisfied with the level of energy they have drained from you to ensure their survival for the day, a simple “thank you” is all you get.
Have you ever been thanked for intimacy?
If you’re getting some weird vibes in your relationship that don’t feel good, trust those instincts! Look out for signs of sexual exploitation and abuse—you deserve nothing but respect.
If you ever feel pressured to do something you’re not comfortable with or notice your partner putting their needs above yours, it’s time to reassess the relationship.
Pay attention to the emotional connection when in a relationship . Read more about why you should never try to regain a guy’s interest. Are you receiving the level of intimacy you are giving? A healthy relationship is built on trust and intimacy, not fear or intimidation. Your well-being matters, so let’s make sure your love life is as amazing as you are!”